Now I could paste here one of the boring, repetitive descriptions that anyone can find on the Internet through search engines.
I would rather share with you some thoughts that may clear up some misunderstandings and have been the most frequently asked questions over the years.
So let’s make this a sort of FAQ (Frequently Asked Questions) column.
Do I have to have sex in the club?
No – you don’t have to…NO means NO. What the other person wants from you, you don’t want. Very easy. If you say NO, you don’t have to justify it, be ashamed of it, or apologize for it. You have made this decision. You are our guest and you want to feel comfortable. What happens if someone doesn’t want to accept that? NO means NO! If someone doesn’t want to understand or accept that, he/she has nothing to do with us; just tell us about it and we will explain it to him/her. If that doesn’t work either, he/she will be expelled immediately.
What is the most important thing when I come with my partner for the first time?
I basically give two pieces of advice when someone calls me and says they want to come first… The first is to talk to each other about what exactly is right for each of you… what are the desires you both want to experience as a couple. And also be clear about what doesn’t fit…
The other advice is to have a word that alerts the partner that something is happening that the other no longer wants to see, know, feel… What does that mean? Well, let’s say you go into a room with a group of people and a group action begins…when one of you notices that e.g. jealousy cannot be overcome and you no longer want your partner to be touched, kissed… Well, this is the moment to say the agreed “alarm word”, which can be “apple strudel” or any other word that cannot be said by chance at this moment. However, if your partner says it, it means that you should get up together and leave the room. Outside, you can then talk discreetly about what caused the alarm word to be spoken, without disturbing the rest of the group.
Do I have to take off my clothes at club events?
- This is where we differ from an average club night… The general custom is that underwear is required for these events… I was once told by a lady that there is a special charm when someone is courting who wears his normal clothes… Then I was also told that there are ladies who would never come to the club because they HAVE to be in their underwear, but are too shy or not in the mood to take off their clothes at the start of the party… So we have decided that they DON’T have to take off their clothes. If someone decides to sit at the bar with clothes on or look around, well… then let it be… Although I would like to note that it won’t be very comfortable in the pool and sauna with clothes on… And of course you still have to endure the questioning looks from others…
Does everyone have to use condoms?
Of course not with your own partner, but if you get together with others or let a third, fourth or twelfth person join you, I would personally demand this from everyone involved… I want to live long without getting sick, and getting to know LGBT clinic is not on my bucket list… I quietly point out that an STD is not like catching cold… The prettiest girl and the physically strongest boy can also get infected without their nose running …it can be contagious up to two weeks beforehand…I hope I don’t have to explain that!
And so that everyone understands, the club cannot be made responsible if someone is such an idiot not to use a condom, which of course is made available to everyone at every event.
Is there a place in the club where sex is forbidden????
At most, some that we don’t recommend… Hanging from the chandelier is quite uncomfortable, and the dining table will of course make some people look at you strangely… If exhibitionism is an additional pleasure for you, we have a stage – no one will get upset about it; and we also have two rooms where if you pull the curtains away, everyone can see what you’re doing, even if you close the door.
Is there a camera in the club???
NO! There is a camera above the front door which is only an aid when guests arrive, it doesn’t record.
If anyone makes a film or takes photos in the club despite our express prohibition, they will be immediately banned from our events and we will ensure that the material is deleted from the recording device before they leave the club.
What if I have unusual desires?
You are welcome! If they don’t cause unpleasant moments for others, you belong to us. Swinger is also about being tolerant of each other. Of course, this is not the place to live out your sadomasochistic desires with a partner who doesn’t even know what it is and hasn’t even in his worst nightmare had the desire to love anything harder. So the motto is: tolerance and self-realization… But tolerance also includes accepting that someone is not receptive to your wishes…
Can I bring my favourite toys?
Of course you can!
Is bisexuality accepted in the club?
Yes… As we have already written about, one of the peculiarities of the swinger lifestyle is tolerance… I think that you can talk about anything… They say there are clear signs – forget it! Just because a guy smiles nicely at both members of a couple doesn’t mean he’s bisexual… This has led to some very serious misunderstandings in our career. In any case, everything should be clarified in advance, what you like or want… If you close the door behind you and things happen just the way you want, you will have a pleasant experience… The writer of these lines is a man. Of course I love the sight of two ladies pleasing each other… But I’ve spoken to many ladies who were just as freaked out as I was when, without warning, I was approached by a very nice man (who I would never have suspected). trying to please me… I don’t condemn it, but I don’t like it either… And the women’s camp sees it that way too… So you should definitely talk about it beforehand and not trust that “things just will happen the way they should”…
Is there jealousy in the swinger world?
Of course there is… If it’s your first time attending an event like this, you’ll see something that you might not be able to smile at at first. That’s why I always suggest to all beginner couples to have an “alarm word”, which can be anything (apple strudel for example, which you both discuss beforehand at home), and when it is spoken, it means that the one who is saying it in a moment, wants the moment to end. Now and here… not 10 minutes later. So it doesn’t mean that we’ll talk about it later and everything can just go on…. This is very important! Many people think that they can easily handle obstacles like this… I can tell you that I have seen many scenes like this where one of the partners was standing at the bar crying or feeling hurt and clearly not feeling well the other was too nice to someone, or he thought that the other was enjoying the moment too much, or he simply felt that the partner just wasn’t attentive enough.
What if we meet someone we know???
Imagine how your acquaintances would describe the meeting to your mutual acquaintances? Of course it’s difficult when they say they weren’t there. Because then how did you meet?
We always say: “What happens in the club, stays in the club”.
We will treat your visit discreetly, just like anyone else’s visit. We’ve seen famous people at parties, but we’ve never told a journalist about anyone… and believe me, we’ve been asked a few times.
Meeting someone you know turns into a shared secret.
Likewise, we won’t reveal that you may have already been here with another partner. We had a dear guest who I showed all the rooms of another club several times because his current partner (who changed quite often) didn’t want to know that it wasn’t his first time at a similar party. So with a nice smile we repeated the welcome speech that we always say to newcomers.
Is the club involved in matchmaking?
If one of our guests would like to meet another guest attending the party, we will of course help; I introduce you to each other with pleasure. But inquiries, when someone says to have seen a lady/gent here at the last party and would like to meet him/her again, maybe we can give out his/her phone number… We don’t see any possibility of that. Discretion is a basic principle. This is always the case; we make no exceptions. What’s more, we often don’t even remember the person you’re talking about, because sometimes the search starts with “I was talking to a blonde, tall…” And even if we knew, we wouldn’t give out the number. Not even if you really want it…
We’re happy to forward messages, but we don’t share any information about anyone directly.
We have a forum on our new website, but anyone who organizes a party outside the club will be removed from the user list. Please communicate on this channel civilized too.
Do couples who go to parties also form a couple in real life???
Discretion… We don’t know and we don’t care if someone meets the partner at the corner or if they’ve been married for 30 years. Nowadays, thanks to the Internet, many people come to club events with occasional partners. If one member of the couple leaves, the partner shouldn’t stay alone in the club. The principle applies that those who come together should also leave together.
Can you make love in the pool?
This is probably the most frequently asked question in any club with a pool.
Usually the answer is NO. However, if you do it with a condom and it doesn’t bother the others, then it’s not a clear no… Let’s say that the gentlemen are kindly asked not to cum in the pool… Everyone should have the principle: if he would observe as an outsider what he does, would he like to sit in the pool in this situation and watch…?
Can I “just look around” during a party where there are guests?
Unfortunately, that is not possible. You also wouldn’t like it if someone interrupted you having fun just because he/she just wanted to look around…
However, if you are curious about the club, we will be happy to show you the rooms, the pool or anything else that interests you at an agreed time before the party and will be happy to answer your questions. Please arrange this in advance by telephone!
The list of the FAQs can be expanded at any time and I hope that it contains useful information for those who are visiting a club like this for the first time.
Of course, you can contact us with specific questions at swingerforyouklub@gmail.com or at +36 30 814 7400.
We wish everyone happy, delightful adventures!
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